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The Simplicity of Making 🫖 Tea

This morning, I made tea without doing anything else at the same time. No checking emails.No scrolling.No mental to-do lists. Just tea. I listened to the kettle's slow build —the quiet that settles before the boil. Watched the steam rise and curl. Noticed how the water darkened as it met the leaves. Felt the warmth of the cup seep into my palms. It was maybe six minutes total. But in those six minutes, I felt more present, more sensual, more alive than I had all week. We often think pleasure...
Sage + Grace | Issue 7

The S.ex Was Amazing, But...

February 14 , 2025 | ISSUE 7 The orgasms were amazing —literally, the best sex I'd ever had. But the emotional depth left something to be desired. To be clear, this wasn't a fleeting affair. We were lovers for nearly two decades, tangled up in one another for most of my adult life. He knew exactly how to touch me, how to make my body do that thing. He also ticked all the boxes on my inner child wound list. That's the thing about sexual chemistry —it’s really good at concealing emotional...
Love Is… Episode 20: Does Your Partner Pass the Sniff Test?

Does Your Partner Pass the Sniff Test?

Remember when I promised we'd start getting into the juicy stuff? Well, today we're talking about something rarely discussed in relationship conversations: why your nose might be the most honest matchmaker you have. In Episode 20, I'm breaking down three crucial reasons why odor compatibility matters in romantic relationships (and yes, I'm sharing my own experiences too). We're diving into pheromones, sexual chemistry, and why that "ick" might be more significant than you think. Click to...

Magical Morning Minutes 🪄

The sun wasn't up yet when I wrapped myself in my favorite blanket this morning. Steam rising from my tea. The house still quiet. I love the peace that comes before the world wakes up. We often rush past pockets of potential pleasure. We treat mornings like a race to be won instead of a sensual experience to be savored. What if we made those first moments of consciousness an intimate date with ourselves? What if instead of reaching for our phones, we reached inward? Even one minute of...
Love is… Ep. 19: True Confession… I’ve Been Hiding

I Owe You the Truth

There is something I need to tell you… I've been holding back —in my content —on this podcast. Playing it safe. Shrinking to fit. Not bringing my A-game. That ends today. This episode is my line in the sand—a confession, a promise, and a glimpse of what's to come—raw, juicy conversations about relationships, desire, intimacy, and sex—basically the kind of things we share over wine but rarely talk about in public. Click to Subscribe + Listen (And next week? We're diving into what your...
Love is… Ep. 18: 5 Things That Nobody Tells You About Starting Over

Love is… Ep. 18: 5 Things That Nobody Tells You About Starting Over

When the longest relationship I never had ended (not a typo), someone said to me, “New chapter, new year.” That was so not helpful. Good is not a feeling I’ve ever felt at the end of a relationship. Even when ending it was good for me. I know you get it. This week on the pod, we are talking about five things nobody tells you about starting over. Click to Subscribe + Listen This episode is a shorty — 5 minutes. But it’s juicy! xx, P.S. Are you a regular listener? Leave a review. You’ll...
Love Is… Episode 17 “Is Busy Your Perfect Alibi?”

Love Is… Episode 17 “Is Busy Your Perfect Alibi?”

Your calendar might be full, but what's really keeping you unavailable? In this week’s episode, we are talking about why many of us are more comfortable with exhaustion than connection. Click to Subscribe + Listen 🔎 I have a simple practice for you: The Spacious Minute. It might reveal what your busy schedule is protecting you from. No meditation required. 🗣️ FREE Masterclass: Understanding Your Relationship Patterns Date: January 23, 2025Time: 1pm PST / 4pm EST We'll skip the self-help...
Love Is… Episode 16: 7 Reasons Why “It’s Complicated” Feels Familiar

Love Is… Episode 16: 7 Reasons Why “It’s Complicated” Feels Familiar

I spent years mistaking intensity for intimacy, choosing complicated over calm because at least I knew the steps to that dance. When someone consistently showed up—no games, no drama —it felt empty. But it wasn't about them. It was about how foreign safety felt to my nervous system. In this week’s episode, we explore seven reasons why we sometimes distance ourselves from good love, heading straight for the familiar territory of "it's complicated." Click to Subscribe + Listen Sometimes, the...
Love Is… Episode 15: How Does Wanting Make You Feel?

Love Is… Episode 15: How Does Wanting Make You Feel?

I've been thinking about our desires—not fleeting wishes but longings that remind us there's more to life than comfortable compromises. In Episode 15, we illuminate how many of us are caught in the familiar tension between gratitude for what is and hunger for what could be. Click to Subscribe + Listen There's wisdom in wanting; maybe it's time to stop apologizing for wanting more. xo, P.S. If this episode resonates, you might want to check out Sovereignty—doors open next month. Get on the...

Sage + Grace 4: Safety vs Security in Relationships

December 27 , 2024 | ISSUE 4 It's one of those late nights in the kitchen—the kind where truth slips out between sips of brown liquor, good cheese, and broken pieces of dark chocolate that melt slowly on the tongue, making for bittersweet confessions. It's the kind of night when vulnerability creeps past our usual guards, carried on the backs of half-finished sentences and averted glances. This woman, whom I'd just met, is telling me about her marriage. Twenty-three years. Two solid careers....

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