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I Used to Flinch When Someone Offered to Help 😮💨
In this week's episode of Love Is..., I’m unpacking something tender and true: the resistance we feel when someone offers us care, love, or support—and how it messes with our nervous systems. We’re exploring: Why “I’ll do it myself” can feel safer than softness. The hidden cost of always being the strong one. And why learning to receive is actually the most radical relationship shift you can make. I also share a story about a client who couldn’t orgasm with her partner because she couldn’t...
Morning Light ☀️
Morning is my favorite time of day. There’s something about the stillness that feels electric, like the world is holding its breath. A quiet invitation.A front-row seat to the sunrise. Yesterday, after meditation, I resisted the pull of my phone. Instead, I sat cross-legged on the floor by the window. The world was hushed. The sky shifted in slow, deliberate strokes—deep blue, violet, and the softest gold. Not quite night. Not yet day. The space between what was and what will be. I’m not...
Getting Lost to Find 🔍Yourself
March 28, 2025 | ISSUE 10 It’s April 2014. I’m staring at my face in the bathroom mirror, watching my left eye swell shut. The shingles virus had taken up residence in my optic nerve. The timing felt cruel. Just four months earlier, I had declared that June 1st would be my last day at my corporate job. I fully intended to leap into coaching full-time. As the days ticked on and the deadline loomed, doubt crept in. I didn’t have any paying clients. My savings were nearly non-existent. The voice...
Who’s Really Driving Your Relationship?
Hey love, Ever catch yourself in the same argument? Or feel that familiar urge to shut down, chase, or fix—even when you know better? Your inner child might be behind the wheel. Again. In this week’s episode of Love Is, I’m breaking down how childhood survival strategies sneak into our adult relationships, why they’re so sticky, and how to start choosing differently—without blaming your past. Click to Subscribe + Listen Once you know who’s driving, you can gently take the keys back. Onward,
Touch Without Agenda? 🤗
"I haven't been hugged in three months," she said quietly. "I don't miss sex. I miss being held." I felt her words. I’ve been there. Touch is too often tangled up with desire and expectation. But what about the kind of touch that asks for nothing in return? Sometimes our bodies simply craves warmth. A hand resting on your shoulder. Fingers lazily intertwined with yours. Being pulled into someone's chest, where you can hear their heartbeat—no strings attached. When was the last time you...
The Best S.ex Advice? Use Your Words.
No one teaches us how to talk about sex. That means we learn the hard way —by fumbling or mumbling —which is no bueno. That ends today. Click to Subscribe + Listen This week on the podcast, I’ve got 10 tips for making these conversations a little bit less uncomfortable. From timing it right (not while you’re getting busy) to the build-up (think Eiffel Tower—start at the base, not the tip). You’ll be talking pleasure, desire, and boundaries with confidence in no time! You can thank me later....
Add More Life to Your Life 🌱
I’m rethinking my relationship with time. There was a time when I prided myself on being a go-with-the-flow kind of person. No rigid schedules, no over-planning—just me, floating through the day, following whatever felt right. Except, if I’m being honest, nothing really flowed back then. I was constantly playing catch-up, always feeling like time was slipping through my fingers. Then, something shifted. I got a day planner. At first, it felt like a necessary evil—just a way to keep track of...
Disagreements I Can Do, But Silence? Oomph. 😮💨
As a kid, silence in my house was heavy. Not the peaceful kind – the kind that sits on your chest and makes you hold your breath. That's probably why I followed my former husband from room to room trying to make him talk it out. Not my proudest moment, but hey, we're all learning here. In this week’s episode, I explain what happens when someone goes silent—they’re probably not rejecting you, by the way. I also share three strategies that will change how you handle the “silent treatment.”...
The Vulnerability Hangover 😳
The morning after felt raw, like my skin was turned inside out. Twelve hours earlier, I had whispered something I had been holding for days to my partner. At the time, I felt both terrified and strangely liberated. But the next day? Full on vulnerability hangover. I was flooded with the nausea that comes after you reveal tender underbelly. Even after years of emotional and physical nakedness with my partner, I still had to fight the urge to text, “Just kidding.” Every cell in my body...
Is Happily Ever After a Thing?
In this week's episode of Love Is..., I discuss a recent challenge in my relationship that had me questioning the real purpose of relationships. Here's what we're exploring: Why relationships bring up our sh*t How conflicts can be doorways to healing What happens when we get curious instead of defensive I share insights from relationship experts Terry Real and Esther Perel, as well as an honorable mention from Marianne Williamson. Click to Subscribe + Listen If you're in the messy middle of...
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