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Disagreements I Can Do, But Silence? Oomph. 😮💨
As a kid, silence in my house was heavy. Not the peaceful kind – the kind that sits on your chest and makes you hold your breath. That's probably why I followed my former husband from room to room trying to make him talk it out. Not my proudest moment, but hey, we're all learning here. In this week’s episode, I explain what happens when someone goes silent—they’re probably not rejecting you, by the way. I also share three strategies that will change how you handle the “silent treatment.”...
The Vulnerability Hangover 😳
The morning after felt raw, like my skin was turned inside out. Twelve hours earlier, I had whispered something I had been holding for days to my partner. At the time, I felt both terrified and strangely liberated. But the next day? Full on vulnerability hangover. I was flooded with the nausea that comes after you reveal tender underbelly. Even after years of emotional and physical nakedness with my partner, I still had to fight the urge to text, “Just kidding.” Every cell in my body...
Is Happily Ever After a Thing?
In this week's episode of Love Is..., I discuss a recent challenge in my relationship that had me questioning the real purpose of relationships. Here's what we're exploring: Why relationships bring up our sh*t How conflicts can be doorways to healing What happens when we get curious instead of defensive I share insights from relationship experts Terry Real and Esther Perel, as well as an honorable mention from Marianne Williamson. Click to Subscribe + Listen If you're in the messy middle of...
The Mirrors We Need 👀
A lover once asked me, "Do you think you really see people?" I replied, "I hope I do." He smiled and went on to tell me that he admired how I made everyone, even complete strangers, feel seen. People tend to open up and share tender parts of themselves with me almost immediately. He attributed this to my ability to make people feel seen. Before then, I had not recognized this about myself. This conversation has been playing in my head lately, as I notice all this talk about loving and caring...
When We Rewrite The Past
February 28 , 2025 | ISSUE 8 Twenty years ago, I watched a friend rewrite the history of her relationship. We were tucked in a cozy corner, at Paco’s Tacos. With each dip of her chip, her former boyfriend morphed —from the man she once called “The one” to someone who “Wasn’t sh*t.” I nodded along. We do that when someone is arming themselves with a narrative to survive. Who was I to challenge her story when she was coming undone? It was not the time to mention how often I saw her roll her...
The Surprising Truth About Great Lovers
Today on Love Is..., I'm getting real about something that might surprise you: the best lovers aren't necessarily the most skilled ones. We're diving deep into: Why emotional safety matters more than technique What happened when a lover actually listened The "work" that transforms sex from good to unforgettable Gentle Warning: This episode contains adult themes (not explicit, but definitely a grown folks' conversation). Click to Subscribe + Listen If you've ever wondered why "technically...
The Relief of Release 😮💨
For nearly a year, my right side was locked tight. It began in my neck and gradually spread down until my body felt like a fist. I lived like this for over a year, tense — with my shoulder drawn up, hip fixed, leg rigid, and foot cramping. At first, I blamed it on my desk setup, so I moved to the floor. Then I thought, "I must be sleeping wrong," so I added a feather topper to my bed, which was already super comfy BTW. But my body was trying to tell me something that I ignored. It wasn't...
Has Technology 📱Killed Seduction?
In Episode 21, we're having an honest conversation about unsolicited photos of genitalia and what they reveal about modern seduction (or lack thereof). This is bigger than d*ck pics – it's about how technology has changed the way we approach desire, connection, and intimacy. Click to Subscribe + Listen We’re digging into: The difference between seduction and harassment (with wisdom from Esther Perel) Why quick hits of attention leave everyone feeling empty A fresh perspective on boundaries...
The Simplicity of Making 🫖 Tea
This morning, I made tea without doing anything else at the same time. No checking emails.No scrolling.No mental to-do lists. Just tea. I listened to the kettle's slow build —the quiet that settles before the boil. Watched the steam rise and curl. Noticed how the water darkened as it met the leaves. Felt the warmth of the cup seep into my palms. It was maybe six minutes total. But in those six minutes, I felt more present, more sensual, more alive than I had all week. We often think pleasure...
The S.ex Was Amazing, But...
February 14 , 2025 | ISSUE 7 The orgasms were amazing —literally, the best sex I'd ever had. But the emotional depth left something to be desired. To be clear, this wasn't a fleeting affair. We were lovers for nearly two decades, tangled up in one another for most of my adult life. He knew exactly how to touch me, how to make my body do that thing. He also ticked all the boxes on my inner child wound list. That's the thing about sexual chemistry —it’s really good at concealing emotional...
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